Me with 3 of my sons, Dan Ben and Thomas and one grandson, Cobe
Parenting's not as simple as it was in the past - although I doubt it was ever that simple! In the 'good old days' there were extended family members to advise and support young families through the difficult years. Now both parents are often working, blended families are the norm and there's often little support from friends and family. And, of course, there's no time!
Things are so busy they're almost overwhelming - on a daily basis. And if some sort of trauma should hit, there's often simply 'nothing left' emotionally. When you need it most there may be no 'extra' support available. On top of that, the continual stress may flood the body with adrenalin much of the time. No wonder the divorce rate and bad behavior is on the rise.
Part of my official training included psychosocial development from birth to adulthood and aging. I also studied parenting skills. I quickly realized though that real-life experience shaped this knowledge into something truly valuable.
Over the years I learned firsthand what works in parenting. And what doesn't. I discovered that translating what you've read into practice often takes some hands-on guidance. It absolutely can be done - even in the toughest instances - and I've seen what it takes to build confident, contented young men and women. I've done it myself, several times over. Both well and 'not so comfortably' - as my sons might agree!? With client teenagers I've enjoyed some great successes. One of my favorite jobs was facilitating workshops in high-schools about healthy relationships for the Red Cross. I would like to help you create your strong family... However difficult your present situation.
My oldest son, Matt, winning the Tour de Rock
Family life can be rich and satisfying - with the right tools. Some of the most wonderful, compassionate and plain common-sense tools I've found are in NVC (with some Imago). I believe that if people understand that their emotions- all emotions - are 'normal' and learn what their needs and values are, then life makes more sense. After all, how can you ask for something when you don't even know that you need or want it? I use custom cue cards to help learn this 'Language of Life' - NVC by Marshall Rosenberg.
I love working with young couples before they get married to create strong relationships. I'm in my element when I'm helping young parents to make their experience of family and parenting a successful one. It's why I do what I do and my clients make my day when they tell me how much difference this has made in their lives, particularly very difficult situations.
I am a registered Victoria counsellor and relationship communication specialist. How is your relationship with yourself? How well do you know - and communicate - what you value and need in your life? I work with couples and families and also with individuals' personal development, including sexual issues for men and women. One of my adult sons offers sports coaching and a daughter-in-law (different son!) offers specialization in alcohol and drug abuse recovery and long-term support.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Warm wishes, Julie
