Truly Effective Couples Counselling
Do you yearn for a little of the old magic in your relationship? Some ease and tranquility? A place where you are truly safe to explore who you are, sure that every single part of you will be perfectly understood and accepted...
Somehow, somewhere along the way, that wonderful 'in love' feeling seems to have been replaced by friendship (on a good day) and something less pleasant on a bad day. Is it possible to have both the shared experience of time and the magic you long for? How? Can 'that lovin feelin' be found and resurrected? Is it ever 'too late' to save a marriage?
So many questions. Often couples only go to counselling as a last resort. Somehow to seek help seems tantamount to disloyalty?
People hope upon hope that time alone will heal their troubles, if they can only hang in there and be patient. It seems like most of the problem is with their partner? Along the way there may well be so much hurt and so many unkind words spoken, it's hard to imagine there might be a peaceful and loving solution anywhere.
Build a relationship of equality, whilst maintaining individuality; closeness with ample space; intimacy and respect; a sense of personal significance whilst giving solid support; balance your needs for challenge and comfort at the same time. Foster real connection with understanding and compassion and consideration... How would you like your relationship to look?
Every situation is unique and the first few sessions are vitally important - finding the balance between listening and going slow and sharing this lifesaving overview now so you can start to enjoy life again. Somehow we have to - carefully - insert a stick into the spinning wheel of your relationship and explore how we can work together to redirect your life in exactly the way that both of you want. And yes, it can almost always be done, whatever the circumstances, providing the will is there.
By using a unique blend of NVC by (Dr) Marshall Rosenberg, Imago Method by Dr Harville Hendrix and Trust Oriented Therapy by Mahmud Nestman I believe it's possible to create whatever it is that we envision. You can develop the communication skills, conflict resolution ability, human understanding, compassion and parenting skills necessary to create the very best marriage or the strongest family.
Sounds too good to be true? A blend of these 3 therapies have transformed so many marriages and families - I've seen it myself and of course I also read about it. I'll be writing more about them here and giving you written guides as to how you can start to strengthen your relationship.
A great part of my work as a counsellor is in working with couples before they marry - this work is almost always faster and most effective. However, it's never too late to start work on any relationship...
