It took a while to gradually build my weeks to look like this - and in the blink of an eye they can look quite different. Only now that I've had a great many difficult weeks, can I be sure - quite sure - that if I keep putting one foot in front of the other and follow my own advice, will a bad circumstance turn around. I use the same plans you'll find on my website or in my office and you can be sure you will turn your life around and make it wonderful again. And as you become confident that it will all be OK again, nothing will feel quite so ovewhelming.
Several of my clients have had similar - yet different - pleas this week: "I'm so done. This is just too much... Will it ever get better? I think it's better and then, bam! Another problem..." Now what?
Is there a message in this post? Yes! Don't give up. Trust. Like the song says 'Hold on, just a little while longer.' If your life right now looks impossible, hold on. Be patient and persistent and you will 'get there'.
The most important change for me came when I learned NVC (aka non violent or compassionate communication or needs therapy). That was amazing. I also 'lived' (rather than just learned) Imago Style therapy and Trust Oriented Therapy.
I count myself as very lucky because my life right now is good. All my 4 sons are doing well, as are my grandchildren. I love the work I do and the birds are singing outside my window!
I worked hard to rebuild my life again (after major physical trauma, divorce and and a car accident just a few years ago) to find this place of personal fulfillment. Organization is tough for me but on a good week the house and yard are tidy and I can go on the beach with friends and the dog at lunchtime (like today!). It wasn't always this way. There have been countless times when I thought I wouldn't be able to make it - when it seemed too hard. When months went by without obvious change. I know only too well that it's not easy.
Last weekend a friend and I went to the Hot Jazz 3-day festival in Sidney for a few hours on Friday night. I was going to say that 'we saw' a band, but it was so much more than that. We experienced them - saw them and heard them and were touched at a soul level by them. They were good! We breathed in their music and rocked as we watched great dancers and actually shared their love and delight in their music. It was a unique, fun, very live performance.
On Saturday I spent some time in Point Roberts with a couple of dear friends - and met a new friend. We shared some good conversation, connection and loving support. My friend Karen owns a Retreat and her whole house has a tranquil energy; distant views of the ocean, a far infrared sauna, tasteful decor, a grand piano. You can arrange to stay there too - a weekend there is one of the best gifts you can give yourself, with her fabulous king sized guest rooms and perhaps your partner.
On Sunday the ferry wended its way past fairy-tale islands and Pacific coast beauty and home, where I had my second Swing/Jive/Lindy Hop lesson. It was one of those rare moments when, somehow, everything seems perfect.
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